By Ally Kennedy, Founder of Amiga
We have all heard the phrase “pre-baby body,” and it is time for us to collectively call BULLSHIT. The “pre-baby body” is fodder for gossip magazines, trainers selling workout plans, and diets, and it time for us to put a stop to it. I will never forget when I was about 8 weeks post-partum and at the grocery store I saw a magazine article about a celebrity who was pregnant. The magazine laid out a plan for her to get her "pre-baby body back within 4 weeks" by working out for 3-4 hours a day for the first 4 weeks after her baby was born. This is compounded by regular comments to new moms. After reading that an Amiga was called "fat" by her client when she was 8 weeks post-partum, I have decided that it is time for a call to action. Amigas, let's raise our voices together to put an end to the ridiculous phrase "pre-baby body," and help our society embrace the "post-baby body."
“Pre-baby body” is a phrase used to encourage women that there is “hope” after having a baby and that she can “get her body back.” Not only is this demeaning and reinforcing of the idea that women should hold perfect bodies as an ideal, it is also totally and absolutely incorrect. Once a woman has a baby, she will forever have a “post-baby body.” It is time for us as a society to recognize the beauty that is the post-baby body especially given that the grand majority of women over the age of 30 are rocking post-baby bodies.
Our post-baby bodies reflect transformation. Our bodies become softer somehow; perhaps it is to reflect the softening of our hearts that comes along with creating life. No woman can go through pregnancy and get to the other side without it changing and affecting her body. Our hips widen, our bellies change, our breasts transform, and for many of us, that’s just the beginning of it. Some of us earn stretch marks. Others a little extra skin. But for all of us, it changes our hearts, our minds, our souls, and our lives. The body is just an outward reflection of the newly transformed women that we are in our post-baby life.
Having a “pre-baby body” is not a gold standard that we should try to achieve, because it is not reasonable. We will never be pre-baby again. Pregnancy does not “ruin” our bodies. Biologically, only women can carry babies. Biologically our bodies must change and transform to accommodate a growing human. This means that our bodies are not ruined by this event, rather they are fulfilling a function that only we can fill.
Let’s come together on this, ladies. I want all of my Amigas to look in the mirror and feel proud of their post-baby bodies. I want us to fully embrace our post-baby selves in our bodies, minds, and souls. Let’s raise our voices and our social media to change the way we speak about this. Let us transform the “pre-baby body” to the “post-baby body,” to reflect the beautiful transformation that is becoming a mother.
About your Ally in Life, Business and Law:
Alexandra "Ally" Kennedy is a national award-winning attorney and the founder of AMIGA Lawyers and Alexandra Kennedy Immigration Law.. After becoming a mother, and in a matter of 3 months, Ally transformed her practice from earning in pesos to earning 6-figures and she is passionate about teaching attorneys how they can do the same. Ally empowers lawyers to be the CEOs of their law firms with her weekly blog, webinars, and conferences where she teaches step-by-step how to do the work they love while running a profitable legal business. Ally lives outside of Seattle with her partner and their 5 children.